I now use this advice in my life, such as when I have to deal with interpersonal conflict. Instead of trying to resolve the problem immediately, I found it more fruitful to ask for some space and revisit these differences later.
When emotions are running high, it can be challenging to see others’ views. Sometimes, having clarity can allow the discovery of more objective views.
The second lesson I learned is no matter how much I clean the stables, there will always be poop to be found.
This is why it is important to know when to stop when you have tried your best.
Once, I kept finding broken pieces of dried manure even after an intensive cleaning. I went on a “treasure hunt” to find the rest of the poop, but it meant that I did not get as much time grooming or walking the horses as I would like.
Work is about trade-offs, so getting something to perfection means something else will have to give.
The third lesson that I took home with me is the importance of confidence when it came to leadership.
It is not easy to get a large and strong animal to listen to commands. While the success of each action can depend on the horse’s temperament, a handler who exudes confidence makes all the difference.
Walking a horse is an act of leadership, and if my body language shows that I am new to handling the horse, it will not want to follow me.
I’ve found that there are parallels when it comes to human leadership too. Whether it is a new project at work or a new role, believing in myself can change the outcome entirely.
AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET
The final lesson came from my entire experience of trying out something new as a volunteer in an animal-assisted learning centre. It is to have an abundance mindset – that I stand to gain too when I am willing to give.
By giving my time to the horses, I received more than I thought I would from the start.
Besides the exposure, I discovered an unexplored perspective of myself, learned to be more mindful of non-verbal communication and brushed up my confidence.
Instead of the common thinking “what’s in it for me” or “what will I lose”, I saw it as “what can I give and value-add to others”.
To me, change is the central theme of the pandemic and beyond. I saw the importance of adaptability and flexibility, and that being involved in personal development helps to better deal with change by getting out of the comfort zone.
Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that as much as it is easy to blame Covid-19 for the loss of opportunities, there is always a positive side and we are responsible for our own development.
After all, if you do not develop yourself, then who?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Veron Ng works in the hospitality sector and conducts talks on solo travel for students and working adults.